The Softer Way

to get what you want

Soul-led success, sans struggle and "shoulds",

for recovering perfectionists and people-pleasers.

You were meant for more, and you know it. 

Even if you’re not yet sure what exactly that looks like or just how it’s gonna happen — especially when the world seems to be falling apart — you feel it.

The calling in your soul. The aching longing that reverberates in your bones. Maybe right now it sounds more like an indecipherable whisper or feels more like a nearly negligible nudge, but it's there, deep down: a knowing you can’t ignore.

You were born to live a big, bold, beautiful life, outside the bounds of everything you were taught you should be and should do, and far beyond what you were ever told could be possible for you. A life that is softer, sweeter, deeper, richer, fuller, true-er, YOU-er… and maybe even a little bit magic.

Your next level is loading, and it’s calling you forward to claim it. This feels like the moment that could change everything.

But — be for real — you're tired.

So. Fucking. Tired.

If you're anything like me, you were conditioned to believe that the way to succeed is to be perfect — to do things perfectly and act perfect and look perfect, and in this way minimize or avoid the threat of uncertainty, chaos, failure, judgement, blame, and shame. Just manage and control all the things, master and overcome, push and persevere, pull yourself up by your bootstraps, chase the dream, check the boxes, and basically transcend your humanity to get it all done, make it all happen, and then keep it all from falling apart.

And you have. Like the high-achieving, pleasure-to-have-in-class, people-pleasing perfectionist you were raised to be, you've hustled this way your whole life.

And for a while, it worked. You made it this far. It got you here.

But creating the success you have now has cost you: your health and wellbeing, your relationships, your sense of self-connection, and self-trust, and being anchored in something deeper than performing perfection.

You know you can’t keep doing it this way. And you don’t want to. It’s not working anymore.

Some part of you knows that even if it could get you to your next level, you couldn’t sustain it. It feels hard. Too hard. Not the kind of hard that you just muscle through — the kind that makes you doubt whether you’re really worthy of your dream, or whether it even exists at all.

Secretly, you’ve been wondering what you're doing wrong... and if maybe the reason it feels so hard is that there's something wrong with *you.*

I get it, bb.

And lemme assure you — it is not your fault. You are not personally deficient, spiritually un-evolved, fundamentally broken, unworthy, or otherwise not-enough.

The thing is, most of the personal development programs on these internet streets just perpetuate those old patterns of perfectionism. They're based on the idea that something is wrong with you that needs fixing and changing in order to have what you desire, so of course they only confirm that claptrap in your consciousness. Like you're never quite good enough. Like you're never quite "there." Like if you jussssst try a liiiiiiiittle harder for a liiiiiiittle longer…

But it's not true. That way doesn't work. It only keeps you stuck in the cycle of ceaseless striving — seeking answers, cutting off pieces of yourself, chameleon-ing, contorting, and cramming yourself into boxes, compromising your essential nature… and even if *wanted* to just keep pushing and persevering, what’s true to your soul doesn’t come about that way.

You need a new way.

A way that isn't about pushing, persevering, performing, and proving yourself.

A way that honors the wholeness of your humanity (and teaches you to trust your mind, your body, and your heart) in the natural process of your evolution. A way that roots you in your wildness and worthiness, allowing for authentic alignment with your inner truth, wisdom, power, and magic.

Less exhausting, and more easeful. Less self-criticism and self-doubt, more self-compassion and self-trust. Softer. Sweeter. More spacious, steady, and sustainable. Less force, more flow. Maybe even a little magic.

No more shoulds. No more shame. No more striving, stress, or strain.

Just you being you, surrendering to your deepest callings and realizing the big, beautiful life you were born to live, the love you were made to receive, and the legacy you were always meant to leave. The YOU you were born to be — whole, wild, and free.

You need The Softer Way

  • “I almost can't describe how wonderful this program is. I have done so much self-development work, and I haven't seen anything come near as close as this program to truly, deeply, hitting the heart of the matter and catalyzing ease and positive change in my life.”

    Gio

  • "Better and more effective than any therapist I have ever been to, and I went for years. Angela is warm, loving, and irreverent to dogma in the best way. Working with her was such a breath of fresh air. In just four months we got right to the heart of things: fears, longings, and patterns that were really holding me back. I have so much more peace in my life... like my life is actually mine."

    Jennifer

  • "I participated in a play-shop Angela facilitated in the redwoods. I'm in my sixties, and yet it woke something up inside of me and started me on a whole new journey. I never would have imagined that for myself at this time!"

    Carole

  • “My life has changed in so many ways! I had a lonnnnng pattern of subconsciously needing to control everything, so of course I was over-worrying and just generally living in my head a lot… there is no peace in that way of being. There is so much more possibility and joy in life now.”

    Britt

This is not just another program stuffed with surface-level spiritual ShamWow.

It’s about remembering who you really are, creating powerfully without perfectionism, performance, or pushing, and learning to trust yourself and your path even when you don’t get what you thought you wanted. 

It's a structured, six-month guided journey into self-connection, self-compassion, self-trust, and soul-aligned living with a full year of coaching, mentorship, and integrative support — designed specifically for recovering perfectionists and people-pleasers creating soul-aligned success... the kind that doesn't require you to abandon yourself in the process.

It's a practice — a way of being, of moving through life and letting it move through you, so that you’re ravished on the reg: soft, surrendered, inspired, delighted, deeply fulfilled, and fully alive. Something that you get to keep coming back to, moment to moment, breath to breath, a sanctuary within that is always there to rest into.

And it’s a prayer — to know yourself as the unspeakable love you’re made of, to root deeply into this truth and choose healing and liberation, to walk your soul path, to be a living ceremony, to sanctify your life and ordain yourself as medicine… the kind that only you can offer, the kind that the world needs now more than ever.

You'll receive:

  • A six-month transformational journey through the groundwork that is the foundation of The Softer Way. I used to teach this live, but found that folks wanted more slowness and spaciousness to do the work (and take it out into their lives) at their own pace, and more time together for questions and coaching. Now each module is pre-recorded, and you can go as fast or slow (and even come and go) as is right for you.

  • A full year of weekly group coaching calls for real-time support, mentorship, intuitive guidance, and soul-aligned strategy.

  • Integrative supplemental materials for every module, including journal prompts, rituals, audio and video guided experiences, and proven tools and practices.

  • A private online community (*not* on Facebook) for connection and reflection.

  • Live sessions with guest teachers leading modalities that support The Softer Way, from IFS and grief work to somatic therapy.

  • Exclusive access to heavily discounted 1:1coaching with me when you want it.

You’ll unlearn those patterns of pressure, perfectionism, and performance, silence the “shoulds” and return to what’s true for you, learn to discern your intuition from your fear, lead from self-connection and trust instead of self-doubt, and reclaim a more easeful, aligned, and intuitive way of powerfully creating what you truly desire.

Maybe you want to speak your message and share your medicine with more confidence and authority. Maybe you’re preparing to take a wild leap and leave the job — or the town, or the relationship — that never quite felt right. Maybe you want more vibrancy and vitality in your body after years of pain and fatigue. Maybe you’re calling in the love you’ve always longed for. Maybe you simply want to trust yourself and your intuition so you can make life choices from assuredness and finally get out of your own anxious head. 

It doesn't really matter what your specific goals are —  this is a deep dive into inner work that changes everything.

It’s not about manifesting more just to keep proving your worth. It’s about remembering who you are beneath the conditioning, and creating from that place.

The result? A big, bold, beautiful life that feels like yours, achieved through flow, not force.

  • “I feel so much more clear and aligned with flow now. I'm learning to hone in on my body wisdom and inner knowing, distinguish my truth from my patterns and fears, and meet every moment from grounded clarity. I trust myself and my intuition in deeper ways. And it's mind-blowing how many synchronicities have happened in my life since the program started! It's literally changing the course of my life. It's like magic follows me wherever I go.”

    Olivia Rose

  • "It was so vital to have someone I was accountable to and also someone who could clearly see the progress I was making when I was too much in the soup of a big transition to be able to see it for myself. Having that reflected back to me was so encouraging and helped foster a deeper self-compassion and self-trust and confidence than I knew was possible for myself."

    Susanna

  • "I have all the tools now and find myself handling situations and challenges with less resistance and more love for myself and others. Even life itself. I'm so much calmer, even in chaotic circumstances. This program is amazing."

    Eric

  • “I feel so much more stable. I feel more open and available for what is in front of me now, in this moment, and more willing to lean into my edge, assert my no, and also define my yes, rather than just go along with what other people are up to or what I think I "should" be doing based on old patterns or fears. I even expressed this in a work context (for the first time!) and it felt AWESOME.”

    Laurel

My 1:1 mentorship is $14,400. The Softer Way gives you access to all the things that, for the last 5 years, have only been available to my 1:1 clients.

Tiered, designed-to-support-us-all pricing.

I believe in social and economic justice, and in equal energetic exchange (which keeps you out of stressful scarcity, and resourced enough to fully participate; and keeps me resourced so that I can to continue offering, deepening, and expanding this work).

Please read the following guidelines and choose the investment rate that is right for you — you get the same program and the same access to me at every tier.

    • You're financially secure and/or have personal savings, you're able to pay for wants, and you spend little time worrying about affording basic necessities like rent/food/gas/child care.

    • If you have economic privilege and power in our community, this rate is for you.

    By choosing this rate, you are “paying it forward” and contributing to a more equitable world by supporting course access for those with less.

    • You may be paying off debt or working to build savings, but you also have a steady income.

    • You do NOT spend most of your time worried about affording basic needs like shelter/food/medical care, etc.

    • Making this investment in yourself now might mean cutting back on some discretionary spending (like going out to eat, buying a new outfit, or travel), but the sacrifice is short-term and will not harm you in the long term.

    • You might feel stretched sometimes, but you have access to basic needs like food/housing/childcare.

    • You're able to put away money each month to pay for programs like this, but the middle tier price would mean you couldn't participate this year.

    • Note: This price is based on a standard monthly mental health budget, or what you might pay for bi-weekly therapy* sessions on the low end of a sliding-scale. (*This course is not a replacement for therapy.)

If investing in this course means making short-term sacrifices, having to get creative, or asking others for financial support, but does not actually jeopardize your safety, please use those resources before using the sliding scale, which will limit opportunities for others.

If you opt into a lower rate when you can truthfully afford more, you are limiting access for those who really need the gift of financial flexibility, as well as disrespecting my own enormous investments of money, energy, time, and years of unwavering devotion to cultivating this work.

Being honest about your financial situation helps us grow a healthy and sustainable community, supports my needs as a fellow human and creator, and demonstrates value for this work.

Step intoThe Softer Way

choose your plan:

  • "Angela's group program was a catalyst for me in a stagnant time of very low capacity and low self-trust. I knew that I needed to be kinder to myself, I knew I needed to be better able to rely on myself to take basic care of my body and my spirit, but I did not know how to get myself to do it consistently. Angela’s warmth and deep-loving encouragement paired with her commitment to offering from her breadth of material and practices that she has been doing with herself was the modeled tenderness, self-commitment, and clear direction that I needed. The space she holds is a loving embrace that both allows *everything* to be okay as it is, and generously gifts the tools for honing self-love-in-action. I am so grateful for the daily practices she offered that I am still doing today -- a simple but essential shift that has me much more open to possibility from a place of practicing compassion for exactly where I am now, and consistently showing up for myself in small ways that had felt inaccessible to me before this group. Angela has so much great and layered content that I feel like I have lots of lessons to keep integrating and practicing over time. SUCH a huge gift."

    Lilah

  • Angela Hale, the queen of alignment. Although I’ve only worked with you once so far, you also will be one of my go-to people when I need to get an outside perspective, a spiritually and intuitively guided reflection on my life and where I’m feeling tangled. I do not go to many people for this work, because I’m discerning with who gets to touch my energy. Thank you for being exquisite in your practice!

    Rose Siobhan Esteva

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